Date: Fri, 8
Sep 2000 16:03:41 -1000
To: Lindsay Reinsmith <volleylindz15@yahoo.com>
From: DrDriving <DrDriving@DrDriving.org>
Subject: Re: Question on Road Rage
Hi Lindsay Reinsmith. Here are our answers to your questions for the road
rage article you're writing for your Woddlands High School newspaper, The
Tartan:
> 1. If road rage is such a consistent problem, then why does it keep occurring
at an alarming rate?
Road rage simmers below the surface for most drivers. This emotional state
is a habit we acquire in childhood while we're being driven by parents and
other adults. This hostile and rebellious attitude behind the wheel is
further reinforced by watching years of televesion where we're exposed to
daily scenes of drivers behaving badly or dangerously, and having fun at
it and getting away with it without consequences.
This simmering road rage shows itself in many ways if you care to observe
yourself behind the wheel. Do you swear and cuss and feel like flipping
others off? Do you feel gleeful when you make it across the light but
depressed when you don't and you're "stuck" on red? Do you break the speed
limit every time you drive? Do you enjoy fantasies of revenge on another
driver? Do you drive and drink? Do you party in the car while driving? Do
you think only of yourself when thinking about being in a crash?
We recommend you keep a Driving Diary. You can take notes at the end of
each trip, or you can think aloud while driving and recording yourself,
then listen to it later. It will show you where and when you have road
rage simmering under the surface. Another useful activity is "partnership
driving" where you have your driving partner or passenger tell you what
makes them feel comfortable or uncomfortable about your driving. This way
you can have a realistic assessment of yourself as a driver, and not leave
it to your own reputation or fantasy of yourself as driver.
> 2. What do you think teenagers should know about road rage?
First, teenagers should know that when they are in a moving car driven by
another teenager, they are at tremendous risk of dying that day. And it's
the same when they themselves are behind the wheel. More teenagers die of
traffic fatalities than any other cause.
Second, teenagers should know that they are responsible for their own
preparation as drivers. They must take it seriously, and this means active
involvement and research on what they should be doing to become safe and
compassionate drivers.
Third, teenagers should know that they are entrusted with adult
responsibilities when they're being granted a driver's license. They
should think and talk about driving, and make it a priority issue in their young careers
as citizens. They need to see in what way driving has not
only safety implications, but moral implications and spiritual
implications. Your driving personality is a character issue. For instance,
if you drive through red you're imposing your level of preferred risk on
someone else. Ask yourself if you have the right to endanger others by
behaving according to your preference?
Fourth, teenagers should know that they need to sharpen their
understanding of driving situations. They need to practice "scenario
analysis" by reading news articles of road rage incidents and seeing where
the two individuals in the road rage duel each had a chance to back out of
it, but chose not to.
We have such an analysis in our
congressional testimony.
We also have charts that can help you
train your traffic emotions.
We have both of these in our new book which we highly recommend to
teenagers. It's called ROAD RAGE AND AGGRESSIVE DRIVING by Leon James and
Diane Nahl, and is available in all bookstores.
> 3. Have you yourself ever been in a bad road rage situation?
Leon's story:
Many years ago I was driving with my kids and the car in front of me was
stopped in the middle of the street and I made the mistake of blowing my
horn. The driver came out and started walking towards our car. He looked
big and mean and I got scared. I put the car in reverse and started going
backwards. He started running towards us so I had to accelerate. I was weaving
uncontrollably and it was a miracle I didn't bump the cars parked
on the side. Fortunately no other moving cars were around. He gave up and
ran back to his car. I made a U-turn and I saw him do the same. There was
a chase and I was very scared. They caught up with us on the freeway and
pulled up along me in the left lane. I was in the right. There was an
immediate exit ramp to the right, so I took it while they were forced to
continue straight. I never saw them again but I kept looking around all
the way home. I was emotionally exhausted.
Today I would never honk my horn that way, since I know the driver's prime
directive: Never loose control over yourself, the vehicle, and the
situation. When I honked that horn I lost control of all three.
Aloha!
Leon James, Ph.D.
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