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and Safety | Drivers Against
Pedestrians | Pedestrian Rage
| Bicycling and
Motorcycling | Safe Routes Program
|
Drivers Against
Pedestrians
How to Change Attitudes
Checklist for Your Tendency to Pressure
Pedestrians
Your Emotional Intelligence Towards
Pedestrians
Leon
James, Ph.D.
Diane
Nahl, Ph.D.
www.DrDriving.org
See also: Pedestrian
Traffic safety
The
spectrum of road users in a community
includes drivers, bicyclists, passengers,
and pedestrians, all vying with each other
for space and pacing rights. It's
frightening to realize that drivers kill and
injure pedestrians at an alarming rate:
·
In 1998, about
7,000 pedestrians were killed by vehicles.
·
About 100,000 pedestrians are injured
by motor vehicles each year in the U.S.
·
Since 1990, about 70,000 pedestrians
have been killed and 700,000 were injured.
·
The U.S. pedestrian death rate is 2
people killed for every 100,000.
·
Pedestrians ages 10-15 have the
highest nonfatal injury rates.
·
Elderly pedestrians are more likely
to die after being struck.
·
Men constitute about 70 percent of
annual pedestrian deaths.
·
About 18 percent of fatal injuries 39
percent of nonfatal injuries to pedestrians
occur at intersections.
Across California more than 1,000 crosswalks
have disappeared in recent years. Traffic
engineers claim that crosswalk lines
sometimes lull pedestrians into a false
sense of security.4 New studies
indicate that crosswalks in the middle of a
block and at intersections without stop
signs or traffic lights often encourage
pedestrians to drop their guard and step in
front of speeding vehicles. Officials
estimate that when a pedestrian is hit, 75
percent of the time the pedestrian is at
fault. Safety experts point to these common
emotionally unintelligent pedestrian
behaviors:
·
Looking down when stepping into a
marked crosswalk;
·
Looking up only after barging into
the street;
·
Looking down while proceeding through
a marked crosswalk;
·
Proceeding into the intersection too
late (Yellow light or Don’t Walk sign);
·
Looking at the nearest car but
ignoring approaching cars in the second or
third lanes that are less visible;
·
Failing to monitor the speed of an
approaching car, assuming the driver will
see the walker;
·
Walking while impaired (drugs,
alcohol, medication, rage, fatigue);
·
Walking in dim light conditions
(dusk, night, daybreak) wearing
non-reflective clothing, assuming drivers
can see walkers.
Pedestrians have the right of way when they
enter either a marked crosswalk or an
intersection with no white lines, but if
they don't allow cars enough time to stop
drivers are more likely to injure them. One
pedestrian complained about drivers:
They use
their cars almost as weapons and get mad
at me when I'm crossing with the walk
signal on. I'm legally in the right, but I
could be legally dead. (Older woman)
and a cab
driver agrees:
Pedestrians?
They take their lives in their own hands.
They're crazy to walk in this city because
we're out to get 'em. It's Fahrenheit 451
time around here. Yeah, cab drivers have
no use for pedestrians. (Middle aged man)
Anyone
who's been in a major city has experienced
the aggressive attitude of many drivers
toward people on foot. The driver sees
someone in a crosswalk, speeds up fast and
slams to a halt on the heels of the person.
Sound familiar? Pedestrians are
threatened daily in cities by drivers who
use aggressive tactics to force walkers to
the curb:
I see them
crossing on campus. Of course they cross
all over the road as if it's a walkway or
a mall instead of a street with cars
passing through. I hate them. I disapprove
of their taking the right to block me. I
wish something bad would happen to them.
This happens everyday, so I have
experience dealing with them. They tend to
poke along, so I drive up fast and as
close as I can to them to make them hurry
up. You should see how they scurry then.
(Young woman)
This is the "me vs. them" mentality toward
pedestrians. Many motorists don't mind
routinely using their vehicle to intimidate
defenseless people on foot. Drivers justify
their road rage against pedestrians by
accusing them in their minds of walking too
slow, as if they didn't care that they're
blocking the vehicle's progress. In short,
pedestrians are just in their way:
Now I see a stop sign ahead but I'm
not going to stop completely because I'm
late. I'll just inch forward to make him
go quicker. He could walk faster to be
more considerate. (Older woman)
If we behaved this way towards people
we know we would be regarded as
self-centered and selfish, and many would
avoid us. But in the prevailing culture of
disrespect on the road, coercive driving
behavior is considered normal. Drivers who
are fully tolerant and respectful of
pedestrians exist, not by birth or culture
but as a result of training their traffic
emotions.
By law, the pedestrian's safety takes
precedence over the motorist's desire to get
someplace. Law and logic dictate that the
people on foot must receive preferential
treatment even when they jaywalk. And it's
not up to drivers to make pedestrians do the
right thing. Nor is it up to pedestrians to
make drivers behave. Yet many drivers don't
hesitate to herd pedestrians, or to use
their car like a cutting horse to place
pedestrians where the driver wants them.
The driver's questionable reasoning is:
You're invading my driving space, my domain
where I'm in charge of what happens, my car
is bigger than you, so I can make you
behave. But this is a fantasy. Motorists
aren't really in charge of the streets, and
they have certain legal responsibilities
toward pedestrians, to protect their safety
and to give them the right of way. If you
unthinkingly engage in aggressive emotions
and acts against pedestrians, you're at risk
of generalizing this negativity to
co-workers, family members, and pets.
Changing
Attitudes Toward Pedestrians
If drivers are
territorial about the roads, pedestrians see
things differently and they too are prone to
road rage. When motorists approach a
crosswalk and cross the safety line, they
have intruded into pedestrian territory.
Pedestrians automatically interpret this
invasion of space as a deliberate challenge
to their rights and safety. Pedestrians who
feel threatened by drivers may have thoughts
of vengeance:
I noticed the feeling of fear,
either for my own safety or the safety of
another pedestrian, just prior to feelings
of aggression toward drivers. I feel a
need to retaliate and I do it mentally by
cursing drivers and wishing bad things
would happen to them. I also glare at them
and give them dirty looks. After an
incident it takes several hours for these
aggressive feelings to subside. I'm
surprised by how much hate I feel for
drivers who try to intimidate me when I'm
an innocent and delicate pedestrian. I get
momentary satisfaction by getting even,
but later I feel guilty and ashamed that
I'm so hostile when I believe in being
peaceful. (Older man).
Even if the extremes are mostly mental and
emotional, everyone is capable of venting
hostility inwardly and overtly. It can be
terrifying when this happens to well-meaning
drivers who make unwitting mistakes:
After my doctor appointment I came
slowly out of the parking garage. The
drive is very steep and only flattens out
on the sidewalk portion. There was another
car exiting, so I had to stay on the steep
part for a few seconds until he left. I
thought he was leaving, so I went up
onto the sidewalk a little, but then he
stopped again, so the sidewalk was only
about two feet wide between our cars. It
wouldn't have mattered, except for the
fact that an odd looking man approached
down the sidewalk and began touching the
hood of my car as he walked by it. Then he
turned to me and said something I couldn't
hear, shaking his finger at me.
The car ahead of me left, and I
waited for the weird pedestrian to pass
by, but I was feeling scared that he might
do something dangerous. He passed by and I
began to move forward, but suddenly he
came back, right into my path. I braked
hard and he continued to move in front of
my car with something in his hand. I knew
he couldn't hear me, but I automatically
said, "Be careful now." He raised his hand
and threw something at me. A big green
ball hit my windshield, right in my face,
blocking my view for a second. I decided I
had to escape, so I swerved around him and
left quickly. My heart was pounding and my
head throbbed. I felt lucky that he hadn't
thrown a rock or tried to get into my car.
It took me an hour to get over the fear,
and now I'll worry about mean things
happening while I'm in the car.
I thought about it later, trying to
decide what I could've done to avoid that
confrontation. I could've backed down the
ramp to accommodate him. He might have
appreciated that, been appeased. I thought
of it at the time, but decided it was too
much trouble, but maybe I was wrong. It's
a lot more trouble to experience that
confrontation and its aftermath. I
could've been more helpful and considerate
of the person walking. (Middle aged woman)
It's easy to feel challenged in either the
driver or the pedestrian role because the
same emotions are evoked in both roles by
the basic emotional intelligence issues they
contain:
·
Who has the right of way (pedestrians
always do by law)
·
What distance to keep away from each
other (drivers: avoid crowding pedestrians;
pedestrians: do not dart between cars or
touch them)
·
How to handle interactions
appropriately (driver and pedestrian both
can avoid showing hostile faces or gestures
of impatience and displeasure)
Drivers who examine carefully how they
relate to pedestrians often discover that
they hold many unfavorable attitudes.
Working with many drivers has proved to us
that people have the capacity to become
compassionate drivers and that altruism on
the road exists in many forms:
There's a
pedestrian and she looks like she's a
jogger, dressed like that. I better speed
up faster so as not to slow her down. I
wonder what my exhaust smells like to her
and whether she's going to get a whiff
that might choke her or make her cough.
Yeah, I worry about that. How do I know
how much I stink and what do I do about
it? I suppose most cars don't, or do they?
I'll need to check my car for that. I'll
smell it when I get home. (Middle aged
woman)
Practicing small kindnesses brings
many benefits to you and to pedestrians.
Checklist: Your Tendency to
Pressure Pedestrians
Aggressive
drivers have many excuses for pressuring
pedestrians. Many of the aggressive
strategies we use are hidden from us until
we monitor our traffic emotions. How many of
these items describe you under certain
conditions?
I put pressure on pedestrians when…
1. _____ I'm
in an unpleasant mood
2. _____ I
feel sick or in pain
3. _____ I'm
in a rush
4. _____ I'm
in unfamiliar territory
5. _____ I'm
daydreaming, not being alert
6. _____ I
don't feel like making an extra effort for
them
7. _____ I
goof up sometimes (like seeing them too
late), but I don't feel like being nice
about it after
8. _____ It's
too early in the day and I'm trying to wake
up
9. _____ It's
too late in the day and I'm trying to stay
awake
10. _____ I'm prejudiced against
pedestrians according to age, gender, size,
appearance, or ethnic background
11. _____ I think that cars should
always have the right of way, for obvious
reasons of weight and speed
12.
_____ I like
to see them cower, as they should, given my
larger size
Checklist:
Emotional Intelligence Towards Pedestrians
The items
are arranged in two emotional intelligence
areas:
·
Knowledge and obedience to laws and
safety principles, especially right-of-way
issues (items 1 to 9)
·
·Social
responsibility towards pedestrians,
including tolerance, caring, and
friendliness (items 10 to 14)
1. Pedestrians always have the
right of way over cars.
Yes
No
2. I'm happy to slow down for
pedestrians and give them all the time they
need to cross safely.
Yes
No
3.
Drivers should watch out for pedestrians no
matter what.
Yes
No
4. Drivers who have the green
light at an intersection are still required
to yield if a pedestrian jaywalks.
Yes
No
5. I wait for individuals to
pass before beginning a turn.
Yes
No
6. I keep the car behind
crosswalk lines.
Yes
No
7. I slow down gradually when
approaching pedestrians and drive away
gradually after pedestrians pass.
Yes
No
8. I stop a few feet away from
walkers as they pass.
Yes
No
9. I give pedestrians all the
time they take to walk past the car before
starting to go.
Yes
No
10. I wear a pleasant
expression when pedestrians can see it.
Yes
No
11. If walkers wave in
appreciation, I smile and wave back.
Yes
No
12. If I make a mistake and
threaten them unwittingly, I try to
apologize.
Yes
No
13. I avoid honking, yelling,
and gesturing offensively near pedestrians.
Yes
No
14. I don't retaliate if
pedestrians do something rude or incorrect,
or try to teach them a lesson.
Yes
No
Is it easier to
answer Yes for the first 9 items and harder
to say Yes to items 10-14? We know that
pedestrians always have the right of way and
are legally protected from drivers using the
car to threaten them. But when we're sitting
behind the wheel and driving under the
influence of reptilian emotions, our logic
wobbles and our memory clouds over.
Sample Pedestrian Self-Witnessing
Report by a Student
This report has
really helped me to focus on my pedestrian
personality. I just never thought
about it. I was walking around
unconsciously, I guess. Once in a
while I would catch a glimpse of myself in
the reflection of a window and I would be
surprised. Hey, that's me. Do I
look like this? kind
of thing. I observed myself under
three conditions. One was the hallway
and staircase of the building where I take
an evening class. The second was our
local shopping center. And the third
was at the beach. I held my little
cassette tape recorder in the hand and kept
it under my chin. I had draped a
jacket over my arm and was holding a brown
bag. I tried to act like I was in a
hurry and anxious to get somewhere. I
didn't see anybody show awareness that I was
talking into the tape recorder from time to
time.
Hallway and staircase:
Well,
here I am again. And here they
are. Just look at that
crowd. People everywhere.
C'mon folks, stay out of my
please. Look at those two standing
at the bottom of the stairway.
C'mon you guys don't stand there.
Here I come.
(Here
I should add some explanations. I
was determined to pass through without
slowing down even if I had to bump one
of the guys. I felt justified
because they were doing something
wrong. They should not be blocking
the way. There was plenty room for
them to step aside against the
wall. Why do they have to talk in
the middle of the staircase
entrance? I felt outraged and
prepared to do violence.)
OK,
that was a bump. My shoulder
against his. It felt like he gave
way. I put muscle into it. I
wanted him to feel a sharp pain for a
few seconds. I'm not going to look
behind. I'm not going to
apologize. In a way I'm
glad. I succeeded in teaching this
individual a lesson without having to
slow down and waste my time. Watch
out here comes some idiot person walking
down the wrong side of the
staircase. I'm not gonna let him get
away with it.
At this point I
kept going up the staircase on the right
hand side. I squared my shoulders and
looked down, waiting for the
collision. The other man tried to get
down through my left side but two people
were right behind me so he had to turn his
shoulders vertically to squeeze
through. He could've made it if I had
also turned my left shoulder slightly.
But I wouldn't. So he bumped me,
expecting me to yield under the force.
But I was ready. I pumped my chest and
shoulder muscle and held my arm tight.
The result was that he fell on top of the
two guys that were right behind me.
They had to steady themselves against the
handrail in order not to go tumbling all the
way down. Me I just kept going without
looking back. There was an evil little
smile of satisfaction on my face.
Shopping
Mall:
(This
time I was not just acting like I'm in a
hurry. I was. I stayed too long
at the coffee shop. I could've left a
few minutes earlier but I kept not
leaving. Just looking at all the
people doing basically nothing.)
Damn.
Damn. Damn. All these people
are crowding in here. I can't
understand why they have to be here at
this hour. Usually this hour there
is hardly anybody. Excuse
me. Excuse me. I'm
sorry. Excuse me. I can't
stand it how slow they are moving.
Look at that weird looking guy.
Strange hair. Wow, look at that
chick. I hate people who walk so slow. I
hate people who stand in the way.
Excuse me. They act like I don't
exist. Excuse me. Oh no, I
hate tourists who walk shoulder to shoulder
three at a time. Excuse me can I
go by please. Hello, excuse me.
Look
at this couple coming at me on the wrong
side of the sidewalk.
Tourists. Don't they know you're
supposed to walk on the right hand side. Why
are they so stupid? Maybe in their
own country they walk on the left, but
here you're supposed to walk on the
right you idiots. They should get
lessons in walking when they come into
the country. I'm not going to pass
them on the left. I just can't do
that. They've got to learn that in
this place we walk on the right and we
don't just block a public walkway.
Damn.
To
explain what happened. The couple just
kept coming at me expecting me to pass them
on my left. There was plenty of
room. So when we came up face to face I had to
stop, and they had to stop. They both
smiled and started laughing and talking in
an agitated way. Of course I didn't
know what they were jabbering about.
Finally I stepped to my left and started
walking again. I felt stupid and
embarrassed. Why didn't I just go the
left to begin with.
Why did I have to make a big scene with them. Well, I
wasn't happy with my pedestrian
personality.)
See also: Pedestrian Psychology
and Safety | Drivers Against
Pedestrians | Pedestrian Rage
| Bicycling and
Motorcycling | Safe Routes Program
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DrDriving's PASS
by Dr. Leon James
PEDESTRIAN
AGGRESSIVENESS SYNDROME SCALE (PASS)
DrDriving's research
shows that the pedestrian aggressiveness
syndrome is made of the following 15
pedestrian behaviors. This Scale can
indicate how aggressive you are as a
pedestrian and what type of pedestrian
personality makeover you need. Ask
yourself how many of these bad
pedestrian behaviors apply to you on a
regular basis.
1. feeling
stress and impatience when walking in
a crowded area (crosswalk, staircase,
mall, store, airport, street, beach,
park, etc.)
2. having
denigrating thoughts about other
pedestrians
3. acting in a
hostile manner (staring, presenting a
mean face, moving faster or closer
than expected)z
4. walking much
faster than the rest of the people
5. not yielding
when it's the polite thing to do
(insisting on going first)
6. walking on the
left of a crowded passageway where
most pedestrians walk on the right
7. muttering at
other pedestrians
8. bumping into
others
9. not apologizing
when expected (after bumping by
accident or coming very close in
attempting to pass)
10. making
insulting gestures
11. hogging
or blocking the passageway, acting
uncaring or unaware
12. walking
by a slower moving pedestrian and
cutting back too soon (feels hostile
or rude)
13. expressing
pedestrian rage against a driver (like
insulting or throwing something)
14. feeling
enraged at other pedestrians and
enjoying thoughts of violence
15. feeling
competitive with other pedestrians
These
15 bad behaviors define the pedestrian
aggressiveness syndrome. They are all
significantly intercorrelated. This
means that if you do one of them
regularly, you will also do many of the
other 14 on a regular basis. You need a
pedestrian personality overhaul--see
above.
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The
Psychology of Sidewalk Rage:
A Community Crisis
in the Making
2010
Dr. Leon James (“DrDriving”),
Professor of Psychology licujames@gmail.com
and Dr. Diane Nahl, Professor of
Information Science
University of Hawaii
Walking
is not just getting from one place to
another. A pedestrian does not just move
through physical space, but at the same
time through social space and mental
space. Social space maps out normative
paths, selecting some physical motion as
allowable, and others as not allowable.
Walkers suddenly stop
as they seem mesmerized by their tiny
mobile device. They are violating
normative paths allowing themselves to
compel nearby pedestrians in both
directions to negotiate their way around
the physical block.
These
walkers are now navigating in mental
space as they strive to avoid
embarrassing and sometimes painful
collisions with each other. Their mental
space tends to be in a negative
environment filled with dark clouds and
screeching owls. Their mental space is
now populated with screaming rageful
thoughts portraying butchering
fantasies. These inner realities break
out into physical space where they are
portrayed as verbal exclamations of
annoyance, derogation and punishment.
Walking
around with intolerance and disapproval
produces emotional depression and moral
corruption. The more negative are my
mental spaces as a walker, the more
stressful the walk and consequently, the
more unhealthy.
Although I have seen no evidence of
research it is my opinion that the habit
of rageful walking has become a major
mental health hazard, and consequently,
a major hazard on our physical health.
Today more people
are expressing a variety of rageful
behavior both in public, like road
rage and air rage, and in private,
like computer rage and office rage. My
definition for sidewalk rage is the
following:
Sidewalk rage (also called pedestrian
rage or pavement rage) refers to the
experience of rageful emotions against
other pedestrians and road users.
There are two types of pedestrian
rage—active and passive.
Pedestrians who act unaware of how
they are interfering with the progress
of other pedestrians suffer from an
unhealthy emotional syndrome called Passive-Aggressive
Pedestrian Rage. This very
common walker’s anti-social syndrome
consists of many intercorrelated
negative and passive-aggressive
behaviors, including:
1.
suddenly
stopping -- requiring those behind
to initiate risky and stressful
collision avoidance procedures
2. walking
shoulder to shoulder with companions
– forcing those behind to slow down
and wait, or else, to ask for
permission to pass (“Excuse me!”)
3. sitting on
the ground with legs extended –
forcing walkers to step over or go
around them
4. walking on
the wrong side – forcing others to
walk around
5. standing in
one spot and seeing a person
carrying bags coming towards them
but not moving out of the way –
giving the impression they couldn’t
care less about your comfort or your
right of way
6. walking
around a corner too close to the
building and invariably almost
bumping into others
7. walking much
slower than others while talking on
a cell phone, reading, or dawdling
and gawking
8. standing too
close to the person ahead in a
cashier shopping line as if to
pressure the person in front to
hurry up
9. after the
show in a theater standing in the
aisle putting on the coat and
ignoring others who want to pass
10. passing
another pedestrian, going in front
and slowing down (called “cutting
off”)
11. walking
too close behind another pedestrian
(called “tailgating”)
12. smoking
outside a building close to the
entrance
13. using
a cell phone in an elevator, waiting
room, or waiting line
14. (add
here your least favorite pedestrian
behaviors)
frustration
followed by rage, emotionally
impaired thinking, and aggressive
behavior
vs.
frustration followed by resolve,
emotionally intelligent thinking,
and constructive behavior.
When we walk in a crowded area
while being in a hurry, we may
experience the intense negative emotion
of frustration each time there is an
impediment or block to our destination.
This emotion is a natural response that
we share with animals that attack us
when they are frustrated by fear or
impediment. In behavioral biology this
is known as the frustration-aggression
explanation. You can see this also with
toddlers and children who hit or push
each other when frustrated over having
to give up a toy or losing a turn in a
game. When frustration in a
community goes up over a shared issue,
violent acts tend to erupt.
The frustration-aggression syndrome
tries to keep us at the uncivilized
animal level of community. But as we
strive towards higher levels of
civilization and humanity we develop for
ourselves rational principles of
pedestrianism that convince us of the
critical necessity of maintaining
civility in our interactions with others
in public places. Civility is the
antidote to the age of rage!
George Washington (see below) wrote in
his diary that civility is the glue that
holds this nation together. Sidewalk
rage, both active and passive-aggressive
forms, is a brute force approach to
walking on streets and malls. The rage
proceeds from a lack of emotional
intelligence that depends on positive
and realistic thinking. Rage is an
emotional state that imposes impaired
thinking. False assumptions and
misjudgments turn into rageful behavior
that is unhealthy to the individual and
dangerous to the community.
For example, tailgating a pedestrian by
following too close behind, is an active
rageful response sourced in one’s desire
to punish and retaliate. Our intense
negative emotion of rage overcomes the
habit of civility we normally show in
public places or while shopping.
The pedestrian who insists on walking
slower than the rest of the traffic is
emotionally gripped by
passive-aggressive justifications that
tend to reassert self-interest over
public good and order. The pedestrian
who maintains the slow walk may think,
You can’t make me go faster. I have just
as much right as you do to walk here as
I please, etc. You can see the
aggressiveness in this attitude because
it lacks caring, sympathy, or compassion
for the other walkers.
Sidewalk
rage is therefore a weakening of the
community bonds that hold us together.
In
our book Road Rage and Aggressive
Driving (2000) we describe the Symptoms
of the Age of Rage (see Chapter
1—Driving in the Age of Rage):
Facing
the Culture of Disrespect
And the President warned us about the
decline of sportsmanship, where "winning
ugly" has become the popular model, and
unrepentant bullies deliberately
contribute to an atmosphere of
unsportsmanlike behavior with profanity,
kicking trash cans, insulting referees,
making ugly shows of defiance,
participating in field brawls, and
denigrating fans in media interviews.
A
culture of rage also prevails in the
driving arena. Everyone knows about it,
and everybody talks about it. The
adversarial attitude common in driving
is similar to disputes and disagreements
in the workplace, in the family, and in
personal relationships. Aggressiveness
among motorists adds a dysfunctional
element to driving as a social
institution or activity. Some drivers go
overboard in applying the defensive
driving principle, emphasizing
suspiciousness and a readiness to
criticize or expect the worst of others.
This
generation will be characterized as the
"Age of Rage," typified in popular book
titles and headlines that herald, and
accurately reflect, society's deep
involvement in the rage experience:
•
The Culture of Rage
•
The Culture of Criticism
•
The Culture of Violence
•
The Culture of Disrespect
•
The Culture of Aggression
•
The Culture of Cynicism
•
The Culture of Fear
•
The Argument Culture
Negative
thoughts behind the wheel act like
mental pollutants, decreasing the
enjoyment of driving and increasing its
noxious by-products--stress, higher
blood pressure, frustration, pessimism,
and less effective mental productivity
that influences health, workplace, and
family life. For millions, driving has
become an emotional irritant that daily
contaminates their mood. According to
research in the U.S. and Sweden, the
longer the commute, the higher the blood
pressure, and commuters facing congested
drives have a greater incidence of
absenteeism. Men and women alike, of all
ages, ethnic, and income groups,
experience frustration on crowded
freeways and at red lights. While this
is an understandable reaction to
congestion, few realize that frustration
in traffic is a learned habit, and
therefore it can be unlearned.
Learned
negativity is characteristic of this
generation's driving norms. For years we
imbibe our parents' attitudes as we ride
with them. Watching drivers behaving
badly on TV, enjoying it and getting
away without consequences, further
reinforces the norm of aggressiveness.
When teenagers obtain that coveted
driver's license and claim their
independence, the negativity they've
imbibed in childhood takes over and
fortifies the culture of disrespect. And
we are passing it on to the next
generation--unless we decide to do
something about it. Social methods have
been used to counteract the stressful
effects of negative thoughts. For
example, commuters who switch to ride
sharing arrangements show a significant
reduction in blood pressure within a few
days. Ride-sharers, both as drivers and
passengers, are less bothered by
congestion, possibly because socializing
shifts their focus away from what other
drivers are doing or not doing. This
book presents self-change methods that
substitute habitual negativity with
learned optimism and a positive outlook
behind the wheel.
The Expanding Age of
Rage
There
are indications that the culture of
disrespect is opening new venues for
expressing anger. As usual, media mavens
have a finger on new cultural
developments and the word is out: Rage
is Spreading! Many headlines proclaim:
•
Parking Lot Rage
•
Sidewalk Rage
•
Surf Rage
•
Air Rage
•
Neighbor Rage
•
Shopping Mall Rage
•
Workplace Rage
•
Cafeteria Rage
•
Customer Rage
•
Keyboard Rage
•
Desk Rage
A
recent New Yorker cartoon captioned
"Sidewalk Rage" pictures a spacious
sidewalk divided by double lines into
four lanes, each marked with a sign:
Speed Walkers (leftmost lane), Walkers
Who Veer, Walkers who Reverse Direction,
and Walkers Who Inexplicably Stop
(rightmost lane). This unfortunate
episode reveals the ugly reality of
sidewalk rage:
It
seems road rage doesn't end at the curb.
World champion cyclist Larry Zimich
became the victim of sidewalk rage
Tuesday afternoon on the Lions Gate
Bridge. On Wednesday, the 32-year-old
North Vancouver rider woke up at St.
Paul's Hospital in Vancouver. "Right now
I can't even get up," said Zimich, who's
suffering from broken bones in his
shoulder and a displaced hip after a
roadside confrontation with bridge
workers.20
One
of the pedestrians on the bridge yelled
an obscenity about cyclists and is
reported to have "raised his elbow and
clipped Zimich with it as Zimich rode
slowly by" causing the cyclist to fall
over:
"I
ended up on the bridge deck and in the
middle of the lane," said the 156-pound
rider. "I heard something crack. Then I
heard the screeching of the cars. I look
up and there's this guy's bumper right
above me. He just managed to stop in
time. The poor guy thought he had hit
me. He was just shaking.
These
worrisome news items illustrate the
severity of the expanding rage problem:21
Car
show rage:
At
the New York International Auto Show,
two men are rushed to hospital after a
knife fight at the BMW display.
Witnesses say the altercation began when
a man stepped in front of another who
was trying to photograph a white
convertible.
Express
lane rage:
A
Milwaukee grocery shopper follows a
woman to the parking lot and cuts off
part of her nose because the woman had
gone through the express checkout with
more than 10 items. The man, 41, is
charged with second-degree reckless
endangerment.
Daniel
Goleman writes that anger "is
energizing, even exhilarating."24
Venting rage behind the wheel feels like
a catharsis--"Isn't it better for me
than holding it in?" Does this justify
hostility or uncivility? While long held
popular belief says that venting anger
is healthy, recent medical research
concludes that venting instead increases
stress and depresses immune system
functioning.25 The new message is: anger
kills.26 However, culture has inherited
the ill effects of the "venting is good"
model. Goleman points to the "seductive,
persuasive power" of anger, of the
illusion that it is uncontrollable,
triggered automatically, that we're not
really responsible when it just comes
out.24 But actually, the "triggering"
stimulus is merely the sudden
realization of physical endangerment.
Someone cuts us off and we hit the
brakes. As the foot moves, the brain
reacts simultaneously and prepares for
the worst. For a few moments we
experience overwhelming physical
sensations. This is the moment of
choice.
It
is a free choice and its outcome depends
on the symbolic value we attach to the
event. If we attach the event to our
self-esteem, we may go down the road of
rage, feeling insulted, wronged,
disrespected, demeaned, and thwarted
from our legitimate goal. The emotional,
reptilian, old brain takes over and
leads us to emotionally challenged
behavior like retaliating. But there is
another choice that is equally available
to us in that emotional moment. If we
realize that the driver's prime
directive is to stay in control of the
vehicle and of the situation, we can see
that we give up control by responding in
kind. We don't know what the other might
do next. But we have the freedom to
transform the symbolic value of the
"triggering" event, to inhibit the
impulse to kill. Following the prime
directive gives us the opportunity to
remain cool headed and to respond from
the new, cortical brain, "Hey, be my
guest." or, "Let it go, it's not worth
it." or, "Maybe the guy has an emergency
or something." or, "That could be my
grandmother." The essence of emotional
intelligence for drivers is consciously
transforming the critical reaction to
something less painful. That's a big
victory!
George
Washington's Rules of Civility
Reporter
Michelle Malkin, in an article on road
rage, reminds us of George Washington's
cardinal Rule of Civility as the cement
that binds a nation together. Malkin
believes that following these rules can
cure road rage and aggressive driving:27
The
problem isn't absence of self-esteem -
but an utter lack of self-restraint.
Two-and-a-half centuries ago, our
Founding Father, George Washington,
subscribed to a more cost-effective and
time-tested program for reining in one's
inner dragons. He carried a hand-copied
list of self-improvement rules,
originally set out by 16th-century
Jesuit priests, wherever he wen--from
Valley Forge to Yorktown and throughout
his presidency. The original manuscript
is kept at the Library of Congress.
Like
many modern road-ragers, Washington was
a hothead who faced mounting stress at
work and at home. As Brookhiser notes,
"Washington had a lot to be angry about
over the course of his career: untrained
soldiers, incompetent officers,
difficult allies, quarrelsome associates
(including Thomas Jefferson)--to say
nothing of his own mistakes from losing
battles to misjudging people….But if he had
gone into uncontrollable rages at every
disappointment or disaster, he would
have ruined his health, besides ruining
his effectiveness as a leader." Rather
than let it all hang out, Washington
tempered his temper by adhering to some
basic rules of civil life.
This
is the simplest and nicest solution
available, more effective than law
enforcement surveillance: Civility, a
true American virtue! For instance,
Washington's Rule 1, translated for the
traffic world: "Every action done to
another driver ought to be done with
some sign of respect." This alone could
solve the epidemic of the century and
stop it from reproducing itself in the
next. Washington's Rule 22 had a moral
implication for character development:
"Shew not yourself glad at the
misfortune of another though he were
your enemy." This is the basis of
supportive driving;
a driving orientation that emphasizes
compassion, tolerance, and wisdom.
Further advice from our founding father
for aggressive drivers, as recast by
Malkin:
Don't
show any sign of anger in your
interactions with other motorists, but
show instead signs of "sweetness and
mildness" (Rule 45).
Don't
use insulting language against another
driver or pedestrian, neither curse nor
revile your passengers (Rule 49).
Labor
to keep alive in your breast that little
spark of celestial fire called your
driving conscience (Rule 110).
Malkin
also refers to our approach:
Naturally,
a new breed of experts in "traffic
psychology" has arisen to provide a
cure. They converged upon Congress last
week peddling 3-step, 5-step, and
10-step programs to "acquire inner power
at the wheel" and "engineer your own
driving personality make-over." These
gridlock gurus warned the House
Transportation Committee that the
world's car-bound population is facing a
mental health crisis.
Most
rage-related incidents, the experts
explain, arise from trivial causes over
parking spaces, obscene gestures,
tailgating and turn signals. Thus the
need, says renowned traffic psychologist
Leon James (a k a "Dr. Driving") at the
University of Hawaii…to "slay your
driving dragon" and "acquire personal
self-management techniques as a driver.
Checklist:
Your Sidewalk Rage Tendency
instructions:
For each question, circle Yes if
the statement applies to you
reasonably well, or No if it
doesn't.
1. I swear to myself a lot
more in crowded places than I do
elsewhere.
Yes No
2. I normally have critical
thoughts about other
pedestrians.
Yes No
3. When a shopper in a cashier
line tries to steal ahead, I get
furious in my mind.
Yes No
4. I sometimes enjoy the
fantasy of doing violence to
some pedestrians (e.g.,
imagining blowing them up or
sweeping them aside). But it's just
fantasy.
Yes No
5. When pedestrians
are being inconsiderate
and inconvenience other walkers,
I get furious with them, even
aggressive sometimes.
Yes No
6. It's good to get your anger
out because we all have
aggressive feelings inside that
naturally come out under
stressful situations.
Yes No
7. When I'm very upset about
something, it's often a relief
to walk aggressively through a
group of people to give my
feelings an outlet.
Yes No
8. I feel that it's important
to remind certain obnoxious
walkers to behave appropriately
in crowded places instead of
just letting them walk in
whatever way they want.
Yes No
9. Pedestrians shouldn't have
the right to walk slowly in
crosswalks when cars are
waiting.
Yes No
10. Pushy walkers really annoy
me so I bad-mouth them when I
can to feel better.
Yes No
11. I tailgate when someone
walks too slow
for conditions.
Yes No
12. I try to get to my
destination in the shortest time
possible, or else it doesn't
feel right.
Yes No
13. If I stopped walking
aggressively others would take
advantage of my passivity.
Yes No
14. I feel envious emotions
when another pedestrian makes
the light on time and I'm stuck
on red.
Yes No
15. I feel energized by the
sense of power and competition I
experience while walking
aggressively through a crowded
area.
Yes No
16. I hate narrow hallways and
walkways that are always
crowded.
Yes No
17. Once in a while I get so
frustrated with other
pedestrians that I begin to walk
recklessly, taking chances in
bumping into them.
Yes No
18. I hate dawdling shopeers
and I refuse to walk differently
around them.
Yes No
19. Sometimes I feel that I'm
holding up walkers behind me so
I start pressuring the
pedestrians in front of me
(called "tailgating" in
driving).
Yes No
20. I would feel embarrassed
and frustrated to "get stuck"
behind a crowd of slow moving
pedestrians.
Yes No
Scoring your answers:
Give yourself 1 pavement rage point for
every Yes answer. How many do you have?
Interpreting your score: Scores range
from 0 to 20. Few pedestrians ever get 0
because negative pedestrian emotions are
habitual and cultural. We all have some
tendency toward it sometimes. The higher
the score, the more likely it is that
you will be the victim of sidewalk rage
trouble. Typical scores range from 5 to
20 with an average of 12.
If your score is less than 5 you're not
an aggressive pedestrian and your
pedestrain rage tendency is manageable.
Scores between 5 and 10 indicate that
you have moderate pedestrian rage habits
of walking. If your score is greater
than 10 your road pedestrian rage
tendency is out of control, enough to
compromise your ability to remain calm
and fair in certain routine, but
challenging walking situations.
By examining the pattern of your
answers, you can gain valuable insight
about your current level of emotional
intelligence as a driver (see Chapter
5). Many drivers are able to reduce
their score to under
5 after conscious practice with the
techniques described in this book. This
checklist helps you assess four critical
elements that create habitual road rage:
•
your anger
theory (questions 1 to 7)
•
your pedestrian philosophy (questions
8 to 11)
•
your habit of compulsive rushing or
feeling competitive (questions 12 to
17)
•
your over-sensitivity to social
pressure by pedestrians (18 to 20)
PEDESTRIAN
AGGRESSIVENESS SYNDROME
In
the expression Pedestrian
Aggressiveness Syndrome the word
syndrome indicates that pedestrian
aggressiveness is expressed through a
variety of negative interactions, all of
which are intercorrelated with each
other. When you examine the list of
aggressive pedestrian behaviors you will
recognize them from your own
experiences.
Two
types of pedestrian aggressiveness are
involved in PAS:
(1)
Active-Aggressive
Sidewalk Rage:
pedestrians who verbally or by
appearance express strong disapproval of
some other pedestrians and the
inappropriate manner they are behaving
in a crowded public walkway
(2)
Passive-Aggressive
Sidewalk Rage:
pedestrians who act like they are
oblivious or unconcerned with the
legitimate rights and needs of other
pedestrians nearby
Every
person can observe these two types of
pedestrian aggressiveness behaviors
occurring regularly in crowded malls,
airports, theaters, school exits, office
buildings entrances, etc.
It
is necessary for a society to train its
citizens in appropriate crowd behavior.
School children need to have programs to
acquire good pedestrian behavior in
schoolyards, streets, shopping malls,
and inside stores. College campuses can
have designated volunteers with an
armband to encourage appropriate
pedestrian behaviors. This can be also be done at
airports and all crowded places. Without
such societal involvement it is
unrealistic to expect people to change
an ongoing general habit.
Pedestrian
Personality Makeovers
are possible and needed for most people,
maybe all people. This is something
every individual voluntarily decides to
do, being motivated by powerful
self-change agents such as ethics,
morality, spirituality, and patriotism.
Sidewalk rage, both active and
passive varieties, is unethical,
immoral, spiritually detrimental,
and unpatriotic. These can
be justified by the following
considerations:
·
unethical:
because we are occupying someone’s
rightful place or space
·
immoral:
because we are aggressively keeping
someone from their freedom to go there
·
spiritually
detrimental:
because we are reinforcing in ourselves
selfish and disrespectful attitudes and
behaviors
·
unpatriotic:
because aggressiveness in all forms in
places is dijunctive of community life
and teamwork interdependence
By
(a) monitoring or observing your
thoughts while walking, and (b) arguing
with yourself to adopt these principles
of fairness and human rights, you can
gain the energy, power, and motivation
to successfully achieve a pedestrian
personality makeover. You will thus go
from being a habitual sidewalk rager to
a peaceful and supportive pedestrian.
The benefits are impressive. We feel
better about ourselves when walking in a
crowd filled with good will and respect
for others. We feel that we belong to
this community because we integrate our
behavior with the public good and the
individual citizen.
But What If I‘m In
a Hurry?
That
is when we are tempted the most to put
on the role of our raging pedestrian
personality. What would be supportive
pedestrian behavior when we are in a
hurry?
First,
let’s agree on inhibiting the expression
of our aggressive intentions such as
saying “Excuse me” with a strong
disapproving tone, or tailgating the
slow walker, or blocking the walkway by
stopping, or walking as a group over the
entire sidewalk, etc. etc. (both
active-aggressive and passive aggressive
rageful interactions).
Second,
surround what you do about it in a soft
context of good will without
condemnation or criticism. Find a kind
thought about the passive-aggressive
rager, such as, “Perhaps the person
is distracted or conflictual and would
not do this if more aware, besides the
fact that I myself can do this if
distracted”, etc. etc. When you
put on this positive and community
spirited attitude you find ways of
passing the block and getting through
without giving offense. This requires
you to be willing to perform face saving
speech acts such as “Excuse me” repeated
several times with a painful facial
expression. You are thus performing the
transaction in which you are reassuring
the other person that your intentions
are good but that you are in a hurry and
apologize for the inconvenience. Etc.
Some
people reading the above strategy might
feel that it is wrong to reward bad
public behavior by being nice to the
offenders. Some people feel that it is
our community duty to protect others by
telling passive-aggressive sidewalk
ragers that they are out of line and
should not make it hard for others to
pass. Some feel that their inconsiderate
attitude should be punished. But
thinking this way is just more of
sidewalk rage that we must put up with
from our own doing! The evidence that it
is rage is that we don’t want to stop
talking about it, and that we continue
to fantasize various punishments these
people deserve. This kind of mental
venting is stressful and robs us from
the pleasure and peace of walking
anywhere.
My research shows that the pedestrian
aggressiveness syndrome includes the
following typical pedestrian behaviors,
thoughts, and feelings. This Scale has
not been formally constructed by
sampling data. Nevertheless your own
observations of yourself while walking
in crowded places can indicate to you
how aggressive you are as a pedestrian
and what type of pedestrian personality
makeover you may need. Observe yourself
in a crowded place such as a mall,
supermarket, hallway, waiting room,
theater isle, waiting line, etc., then
immediately after sit down or stand
aside and ask yourself how many of these
bad pedestrian behaviors apply to you on
that occasion. Repeat the observation
several more times until you begin to
get to know yourself as a pedestrian.
The following items are only some of the
things we habitually do as pedestrians
and you are no doubt familiar with many
more. All together they define the
pedestrian aggressiveness syndrome. They
are all intercorrelated. This means that
if you do one of them regularly, you
will also do many of the others on a
regular basis. You may need a pedestrian
personality overhaul.
1.
feeling
stress and impatience when walking in a
crowded area (crosswalk, staircase,
mall, store, airport, street, beach,
park, etc.)
2.
having
denigrating thoughts about other
pedestrians
3.
acting
in a hostile manner (staring, presenting
a mean face, moving faster or closer
than expected)
4.
walking
much faster or much slower than the rest
of the pedestrians around you
5.
not
yielding when it's the polite thing to
do (insisting on going first)
6.
walking
on the left of a crowded passageway
where most pedestrians walk on the right
7.
muttering
at other pedestrians
8.
bumping
into others
9.
not
apologizing when expected (after bumping
by accident or brushing too close in
attempting to pass)
10.
making
insulting gestures
11.
hogging
or blocking the passageway, acting
uncaring or unaware of other passers bye
12.
walking
by a slower moving pedestrian and
cutting back too soon (feels hostile or
rude and is equivalent to "cutting off"
in driving)
13.
expressing
pedestrian rage against a driver (like
insulting or throwing something)
14.
feeling
enraged at other pedestrians and
enjoying thoughts of violence
15.
feeling
competitive with other pedestrians
It’s normal to
experience sidewalk rage under certain
conditions as when we come up against
pedestrians at airports who are walking
on the left and disrupting the flow of
those who are moving along at a quick
pace. See if you can recognize your own
experiences in the following sequence of
events:
A.
As you walk on the right at a quick
pace pulling your suitcase wheels
behind you, you notice two pedestrians
coming towards you on your side,
carrying things and walking on their
left. You realize as you come nearer
that they are not going to move out of
your way.
B. You
suddenly feel the heat of the extra
blood rushing to your face and you
become conscious of negative thoughts
tumbling through your mind. You hear
yourself mutter quietly under your
breath and derogatory words are formed
silently on your lips.
Or in addition: you allow yourself
more overt expressions such as “giving
the stink eye” as you move by, saying
something unflattering out loud,
deliberately bumping into, and perhaps
for some people, some violently
inventive behaviors.
C. At this
point you have the opportunity of
continuing the process in the form of
mental venting or in the form of
mental re-evaluation.
Mental venting is a long process
marked by the inability to stop
thinking and talking about an event or
person. It is an obsession high in
affective cost. We spend a lot of
negative feelings during mental
venting. There is a high toll on the
physical health as well. Mental
venting destroys the glue that holds
community together. The person in the
grips of mental venting gives up
rationality and civility. In driving
mental venting leads to dangerous road
rage.
D. Mental
re-evaluation puts a stop to mental
venting. Mental re-evaluation is the
quick process of changing one’s
negative performance style to
supportive. In mental venting we
quickly multiply the reasons and
justifications for hating and
punishing the offending pedestrians.
In mental re-evaluation we quickly
multiply the reasons and
justifications for forgiving and
supporting the offending pedestrians.
We compel ourselves to make a show of
public friendliness or civility by
slowing down, by smiling, by accepting
apologies, by greeting, by walking
around without showing displeasure,
etc.
To summarize:
(A) you
notice inconsiderate walkers ahead
(B) you’re filled with
negative thoughts and words
(C) you continue with mental
venting and sidewalk rage,
or else
(D) you do mental
re-evaluation towards tolerance and
civility
The difference between (C) and (D) is
like that between unhealthy vs. healthy,
or between irrational vs. rational, or
between destructive of community vs.
community building. Pedestrians are
capable of switching from mental venting
and revenge (C) to mental tolerance and
civility (D) when their love for
community and rationality exceeds their
love for revenge and getting even with
the offending walkers. Thinking of
insulting things about someone is
motivated by feelings of revenge and the
love of punishing those who are
offensive or inconsiderate. Giving up
the satisfaction of this mental revenge
is a major step in one’s spiritual
self-actualization.
The Pedestrian Aggressiveness Syndrome
Scale (PASS) is a self-administered
scale that measures the intensity of a
person's aggressiveness as a pedestrian.
In its current form it has 15 scale
items referencing the pedestrian's
affective (emotions), cognitive
(thoughts), and sensorimotor (actions)
style of walking in public places,
especially when crowded with people,
vehicles, and places of attraction.
I developed the pedestrian
aggressiveness scale by having people
walk with a recorder and speaking their
thoughts and feelings aloud. I analyzed
the tapes and isolated 15 items that
walkers frequently feel, think, and do
while interacting with others.
Some walkers are more aggressive than
others, though I found that almost
everyone has critical and denigrating
thoughts about walkers who act oblivious
of how they affect other pedestrians.
For example, here are some frequent
rageful behaviors by pedestrians:
* maintaining a mean
face as you pass by (to express your
disapproval)
* deliberately
bumping into the pedestrian blocking the
way
* yelling at a
motorist or cyclist
* enjoying thoughts
of violence about inconsiderate
pedestrians
These negative pedestrian behaviors can
be modified by those who realize this
negativity in themselves, are shocked by
it, and make a drastic decision to stop
being an aggressive pedestrian and start
acting like a supportive pedestrian.
Pedestrians need to connect with each
other on Facebook or other social
networking facilities and promote
becoming a supportive pedestrian. This
involves acting the opposite of what you
feel and think.
* put on a nice
face as you go by
* do not engage their
eyes so as to keep the interaction short
and reserved
* every time you
think of something negative, modify it
with something positive (e.g., "They are
very involved and do not notice me." or
"I sometimes do that when I am in their
situation." etc.-- Be creative in
positivity thinking!)
* remind yourself
that negativity increases stress and is
unhealthy
* remind yourself
that expressing negativity in public
places is dangerous since you never know
if the other person is or is not violent
(and carries a weapon, etc.)
The important element of pedestrian
self-improvement techniques is to
observe yourself
while walking among others. This is more
effective than taking a personality
test. All pedestrians need to monitor
their thoughts and emotions while
walking in crowded places. This will
indicate the tendency to have sidewalk
rage.
If you observe that your emotions and
thoughts are negative, it's time to give
yourself the
opportunity to become a positive and
supportive pedestrian who enjoys walking
and experiences little stress or risk.
Also think about the fact that being a
supportive pedestrian strengthens social
bonds in the community generally.
Everybody benefits when a person
switches from being an aggressive walker
to a supportive walker.
The
Daily Emotional Spin Cycle
The diagram below is
called "the four options diagram." It
shows the four options we have on our
daily emotional spin cycle:
The two options in the upper half of the
diagram are
called the red zone which refer to
others and the world (one is negative
and the other is positive). The two
options in the lower half of the diagram are
called the blue zone. It refers to self
(again, one is negative and the other is
positive).
Note that each of the four options
involves the threefold-self: feeling
habits, thinking habits, and acting out
habits which include sensations in the
body that we are aware of but do not
show overtly, as well as our body
movements and appearance that others can
see. The four options are called the
"emotional spin cycle" because they map
out the cultural norms of behavior we
acquire in our socialization or
upbringing. To function as socialized
individuals our threefold self must
acquire particular habits that run
themselves off according to a standard
behavioral routine. These socialized
habit routines are sometimes called
"social scripts" or "schemas".
They mark our sub-cultural identity and
social personality. They make us
predictable and familiar to others.

From:
http://www.soc.hawaii.edu/leonj/leonj/leonpsy16/g16reports-instructions.html
Communication
and cooperation require that people
overlap to some extent in their habits
of feeling, thinking, and acting or
appearing. These standardized habit
routines of the threefold-self
can be categorized into four main types,
which are here called "the four
options." These are the four types of
behavioral routines we can choose to run
off at some particular moment in our
daily round of activities. It's up to us
which option we choose at any one time
or in any one interaction with others.
We can consciously choose to modify them
so that the new habits will then become
our automatic reactions. These new
habits are also standardized but they
may suit us better, as for example when
we choose to switch from negative to
positive zones. This switching is
indicated on the diagram by the red
bridge and the blue bridge.
Notice the option at the top left
"negative about others and the world."
Here the threefold self is running off
the habit routine of RAGE or ARROGANCE.
This affective feeling state or
motivation in your mind,
seeks and hooks up with a type of
cognitive thinking that is called
EMOTIONALLY IMPAIRED. When we are in an
enraged or arrogant affective feeling
state, a compatible cognitive thinking
routine is triggered in our mind. This
type of cognitive routine is not
objective, realistic, or rational but is
merely made to suit the negative feeling
of rage or arrogance. The negative
emotion and the impaired thinking then
combine together to produce an overt
behavioral routine that is called
AGGRESSIVE or DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR. In
this way the threefold self runs off a
series of negative habit routines
consisting of a negative feeling coupled
with impaired thinking and acted out as
destructive behavior. This is one option
we have in many situations in which we
find ourselves every day.
Now notice the option at the top right:
"positive about others and the world."
Here the threefold self is running off
the habit routine of RESOLVE with
COMPASSION. This affective feeling state
or motivation in your mind seeks and
hooks up with a type of cognitive
thinking routine that is called
EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT. When we are in
a positive affective state of RESOLVE
with COMPASSION, we are highly motivated
to do something to solve a problem. The
affective feeling habit of resolve (or
determination) needs to be associated
with the affective feeling habit of
compassion. This is what makes it
different from rage. When we choose the
rage option, all sorts of negative
affective feeling habits will come
associated with it, such as cruelty,
hatred, and insensitivity. But the
resolve with compassion option comes
associated with positive feeling habits
such as compassion, empathy, fairness,
and tolerance.
The positive affective feeling state
seeks out and triggers a compatible
cognitive thinking habit. This type of
cognitive thinking activity in the mind
is objective, realistic, and rational.
We then understand the realities of the
actual situation instead of
misunderstanding it and replacing it
with the subjective distortions in
thinking caused by negative emotions.
The positive affective feeling state of
RESOLVE with COMPASSION then seeks out
and combines with EMOTIONALLY
INTELLIGENT thinking, and together they
produce an overt behavioral routine that
is called SUPPORTIVE and CONSTRUCTIVE
BEHAVIOR. The threefold self runs off a
series of positive habits consisting of
a positive feeling coupled with
emotionally intelligent thinking and
acted out as constructive behavior. This
is a second option.
The "red bridge" (look at the diagram
again) connects the negative and
positive portions of the upper half of
the diagram. The bridge is shown to
connect negative thinking to positive
thinking because we have voluntary
control over our thinking process, and
much less control directly over our
feelings. The idea of this approach is
that if you voluntarily change your
negative thinking into positive
thinking--a choice we always can
make--then the negative feeling will
soon turn into positive. Then the new
positive feeling coupled with the
positive thinking together will produce
the new overt behavior. At that point
you're living the new option and you've
been successful in switching over from
the negative option.
Of course this may not last long since a
few minutes later a new situation or
concern comes along and we can be thrown
back into the negative spin cycle. But
now we can use the bridge technique
again and get ourselves moving in the
positive spin cycle. Eventually, with
daily practice, we will learn to switch
to positive as soon as we observe
ourselves in negative mode. In this way
we change our life and our personality
for the better. The bridge technique
gives us a choice to customize our
options to suit what's best for us and society.
You use the red bridge to cross from
negative thinking to positive thinking,
from emotionally impaired thinking to
emotionally intelligent thinking. Our
ability to use the bridge technique is
part of the socialization process that
produces all our habits. The red bridge
technique consists of talking to ourselves in a
certain way so that we stop thinking
negatively about someone or some
situation and start thinking positively.
We have the capacity to monitor our
thinking and to note that it is
emotionally impaired or biased. We can
then replace this type of negative
thinking routine with more objective and
emotionally intelligent thinking
routines. Of course to use the bridge
technique we must be motivated to use
the positive option available. Without
that motivation we keep re-running or
re-cycling the negative routines of the
threefold self that we have acquired in
the past.
Now look at the the
third option of routines that is labeled
"negative about the self" (at the bottom
left). A general name for that category
is DEPRESSION or INADEQUACY. These
associated negative feelings about
ourselves seek out and encourage
thinking routines that are called
PESSIMISTIC or CYNICAL. Feelings of
depression are actually feelings of rage
turned towards ourselves.
Similarly, feelings of inadequacy are
actually feelings of arrogance turned
against ourselves.
Rage against others or the world
alternates with rage against the self,
and vice versa. The rage-depression spin
cycle and the arrogance-inadequacy spin
cycle,
represent two very common options many
people take every day. Note that the
feelings of depression-inadequacy
combine with pessimistic-cynical
thinking to produce the behavioral
outcome called SELF-DESTRUCTIVE
BEHAVIOR. This is the third option.
The fourth option is located at the
bottom right of the diagram. It is
labeled "positive about self." In this
state we are opting for feelings of
enthusiasm and self-confidence which we
have available due to our socialization
process. These positive feeling states
would not last on their own because they
need to seek out and be connected with
positive thinking habits called here
optimistic and realistic thinking. The
positive feeling states of enthusiasm
and self-confidence act together with
the positive thinking routines called
optimism and realism, to produce the
positive outward routines called
SELF-ENHANCING BEHAVIOR. The healthy
growth of our personality and character
depends on our choosing this fourth
option. Self-enhancing behavior includes
mental health, discipline, orderliness,
mastery, and coping. The well-adjusted,
happy, and successful individual chooses
this option more than the negative
counterpart.
Note the "blue bridge" in the diagram
that allows us to cross from negative
thinking about self to positive. The
blue bridge represents our capacity to
monitor our own thinking process and to
recognize what is pessimistic and
cynical in it. We can then question this
pessimism or cynicism and substitute
positive forms of thinking about self
called optimism and realism. But
optimism by itself could degenerate into
unrealistic wish-fulfillment--which
is in the negative category. This is why
we need to combine optimism with realism
to insure that we run off only positive
thinking routines that correspond with
reality. The blue bridge allows us to
talk ourselves out of pessimism or
cynicism and switch to more positive and
more realistic thinking routines.
The idea is that as we make ourselves
think positive things about ourselves,
the positive feelings we have lying
dormant will activate themselves since
now they can act together with positive
thinking routines. When we make
ourselves think optimistically and
realistically we create the conditions
for bringing on positive feeling
routines such as enthusiasm and
self-confidence. Self-enhancing behavior
will be the result when positive
feelings of enthusiasm and
self-confidence combine together with
positive thinking called optimism and
realism. The blue bridge may also help
you flip-flop in positive zones. Just as rage and
depression flip-flop or take turns, in
the same way enthusiasm and
self-confidence flip-flop with resolve
and compassion, keeping us in the
positive zones.
Your task in this project will be to
monitor the negative options you tend to
automatically select in particular
recurrent situations every day, and then
to use the appropriate bridge technique
to switch to a positive zone. You will
then observe to what extent the bridge
technique worked out or not. Often we
seem unable to cross the bridge due to
the grip of negative feeling and
thinking routines that appear to hold us
there captive, and we seem to ourselves
unable to get free of them. But at other
times we succeed in crossing the bridge
and changing the option that our
threefold self is performing. Your
self-analysis data will indicate when
you are more successful and when you are
less so. This is the purpose of the
project. (Note: Your grade does not
depend on whether you're successful or
not when applying the bridge technique
but on how you write up the project.)
Explanation
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TEE Cards by Dr.
Leon James
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No.37C8
DrDriving Factoids and Statistics
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About Pedestrians--Part1
Over one million pedestrians were
killed or injured in the US in
1995, according to DOT Bureau of
Transportation Statistics
- In 1994, 18
percent of all pedestrian
fatalities were older people.
- Males accounted
for 67 percent of total
fatalities, 68 percent of all
pedestrian fatalities.
- In 1994, there
were 5,472 pedestrian fatalities which
represented 13 percent of total
fatalities.
- On average, a
pedestrian is killed in a motor
vehicle crash every 96 minutes.
- More than
one-third of children between 5
and 9 years old killed in motor
vehicle crashes were pedestrians.
- Nearly 100,000
pedestrians are injured in motor
vehicle accidents each year in the
United States, with a majority of
these accidents taking place in
urban areas.
- Even though there
are fewer drivers on U.S. roads at
night, the risk of death in a
traffic accident more than doubles
when darkness falls. In 1996,
there were more than 18,000
drivers or passengers killed in
nighttime car crashes. About 3,500
pedestrians and 368 bicyclists
also were killed.
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No.67C8
DrDriving's Factoids and
Statistics
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Drivers Killing
Pedestrians--Part 2
The socio-political spectrum of
driving factions in a community
includes drivers, byciclists,
passengers, and pedestrians, all
vying against each other for
overlapping venues and spaces and
rights. In this frightening war
drivers kill and injure pedestrians
at an alarming and shocking rate
- In 1998, about 7,000
pedestrians were killed by
vehicles.
- About 100,000
pedestrians are injured by motor
vehicles each year in the U.S.
- Since 1990, about
70,000 pedestrians have been
killed and 700,000 were injured.
- The U.S.
pedestrian death rate is now 2
killed for every 100,000 people.
- Children younger
than age 16 are most likely to be
struck by motor vehicles.
- Pedestrians ages
10-15 have the highest nonfatal
injury rates.
- Elderly
pedestrians, though less
frequently struck than children,
are more likely to die after being
struck.
- Beginning at age
65, the rate of pedestrian
fatality is nearly twice as high
as it is for people younger than
65.
- Men constitute
about 70% of pedestrian deaths
annually.
- About 18% of
fatal injuries to pedestrians
occur in collisions with motor
vehicles at intersections.
- About 39% of
nonfatal injuries occur at
intersections.
- In urban areas,
the proportion of pedestrian
injuries at intersections is
greater than in nonurban areas.
- A substantial
number of urban pedestrian crashes
involve turning vehicles,
particularly left-turning
vehicles.
- Pedestrians
usually are not "run over" by
motor vehicles. The bumper usually
strikes a child's upper leg, and
the front edge of the hood strikes
the torso. An adult may be struck
in the lower leg by the bumper and
in the upper leg by the front edge
of the hood. At impact speeds
slower than 10-12 mph, these may
be the only contacts between the
pedestrian and the vehicle, but at
higher speeds pedestrians usually
slide over the front edge of the
hood before their upper bodies
strike the vehicle.
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No.68C1 Common
Emotionally Un-intelligent
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Pedestrian Behaviors to Avoid
- Not looking up
when stepping into a marked
crosswalk
- Looking up only
after barging into the street
- Not looking up
when proceeding through a marked
crosswalk
- Proceeding into
the intersection too late (Yellow
light or Don’t Walk sign)
- Looking at the
nearest car but ignoring
approaching cars in the second or
third lanes that are not visible
- Not monitoring
the speed of an approaching car,
assuming the driver will see the
walker
- Walking while
impaired (drugs, alcohol,
medication, rage, excessive
fatigue, suicidal impulse)
- Walking in dim
light conditions (dusk, night,
daybreak) wearing clothing that is
dark, assuming drivers can see
walkers in that light
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No.69C1
Pedestrian Training Curriculum
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People tend to look up when they
cross an unmarked street, while they
tend to look down in a marked
crosswalk, almost as if hypnotized
by the white lines. But what is the
solution when no traffic light will
be installed at an intersection?
Making the lines disappear, in the
hope that people will walk two
blocks to the traffic light
intersection? Perhaps that's the
engineer's perspective, but parents
and educators see that the community
must do more pedestrian training.
Imparting safe walking skills should
be as prominent in the school
curriculum as oral and written
literacy.
A good Walk Right Curriculum would
include teaching these skills:
- Safety principles
- how to cross
- what drivers can see daytime and
nighttime
- where to walk when there is no
street
- how to walk in a parking lot
- who's got the right of way
- Human rights
issues
- what's wrong with blocking the
way
- responsibilities towards other
pedestrians
- responsibilities towards drivers
and cyclists
- responsibilities towards law and
order
- Emotional
intelligence
- how to assess oneself as a
pedestrian
- how to analyze pedestrian
conflicts with drivers and
cyclists
- how to manage oneself in a line
- how to gauge what rate of
walking is appropriate
- how to think positively about
other road users
- how to think objectively about
special pedestrian needs (baby
carriages, wheelchairs, people
with suitcases, people rushing,
etc.)
- how to manage and schedule
walking times
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No.38C2
SafeCrossing
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How to Handle One's Pedestrian
Rage
Stress-free, friendly, and safe
crossing. How do we get to it?
First, we resist blaming drivers and
their shortcomings. Second, we
examine how we ourselves contribute
to the stress and danger of street
crossing. Third, and finally, we use
SAFE CROSSING TECHNIQUES. Result:
reduced stress, greater safety, more
civility or mutual support..
Question
"Why should I resist blaming idiot
drivers who endanger my life because
they're too stupid to be aware of
pedestrians in crosswalks?"
This illustrates a
pedestrian attitude problem that has
gotten thousands of pedestrians
killed or injured last year, and
again as many this year.
Solution
Make yourself face this: getting
angry is stress producing. Who is
making you angry? That driver you
call "idiot"? No. Wrong theory. You
are making yourself angry over that
driver's behavior or mentality.
Therefore: It is you who is pumping
up the stress by mentally churning
up your emotions through the venting
you're doing. Venting your anger
means feeling indignant at the
driver, and wanting the driver to
know that you're displeased, mad,
shocked, or scared. You can tell
yourself this: it's worth giving up
venting so that you can reduce your
stress. Medical research shows that
the stress from venting weakens your
body's resistance to getting sick.
Giving up venting is not
easy, even after you decide you want
to. One trick I recommend: ACT THE
OPPOSITE OF WHAT YOU FEEL LIKE!
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No.39C2
SafeCrossing
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PEDESTRIAN PERSONALITY MAKEOVERS
Doing a pedestrian self-witnessing
report helps you to focus on your
pedestrian personality. People don't
normally think about it. Most of us
walk around unconsciously. You can
become more aware of your pedestrian
personality by observing your
emotions, thoughts, and actions
under various conditions. You can
carry a little tape recorder or
video camera, or you can stop every
few minute and write down some of
your self-observations.. Here is
what one individual wrote:
Staircase and hallway:
"Well, here I am again.
And here they are. Just look at that
crowd. People everywhere. C'mon
folks, stay out of my way please.
Look at those two standing at the
bottom of the stairway. C'mon you
guys don't stand there. Here I come.
I was determined to pass
through without slowing down even if
I had to bump one of the guys. I
felt justified because they were
doing something wrong. They should
not be blocking the way. There was
plenty room for them to step aside
against the wall. Why do they have
to talk in the middle of the
staircase entrance? I felt outraged
and prepared to do violence.
OK, that was a bump. My
shoulder against his. It felt like
he gave way. I put muscle into it. I
wanted him to feel a sharp pain for
a few seconds. I'm not going to look
behind. I'm not going to apologize.
In a way I'm glad. I succeeded in
teaching this individual a lesson
without having to slow down and
waste my time. Watch out here comes
some idiot person walking down the
wrong side of the staircase. I'm not
gonna let
him get away with it.
At this point I kept going
up the staircase on the right hand
side. I squared my shoulders and
looked down, waiting for the
collision. The other man tried to
get down through my left side but
two people were right behind me so
he had to turn his shoulders
vertically to squeeze through. He
could've made it if I had also
turned my left shoulder slightly.
But I wouldn't. So he bumped me,
expecting me to yield under the
force. But I was ready. I pumped my
chest and shoulder muscle and held
my arm tight. The result was that he
fell on top of the two guys that
were right behind me. They had to
steady themselves against the
handrail in order not to go tumbling
all the way down. Me, I just kept
going without looking back. There
was an evil little smile of
satisfaction on my face."
Shopping Mall:
"This time I was not just
acting like I'm in a hurry. I was. I
stayed too long at the coffee shop.
I could've left a few minutes
earlier but I kept not leaving. Just
looking at all the people doing
basically nothing.
Damn. Damn. Damn. All
these people are crowding in here. I
can't understand why they have to be
here at this hour. Usually this hour
there is hardly anybody. Excuse me.
Excuse me. I'm sorry. Excuse me. I
can't stand it how slow they are
moving. Look at that weird looking
guy. Strange hair. Wow, look at that
chick. I hate people who walk so slow. I hate
people who stand in the way. Excuse
me. They act like I don't exist.
Excuse me. Oh no, I hate tourists
who walk shoulder
to shoulder three at a
time. Excuse me can I go by please.
Hello, excuse me.
Look at this couple coming
at me on the wrong side of the
sidewalk. Tourists. Don't they know
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